I Love Frozen

I Love Frozen

My current favorite movie is Frozen. We bought a copy the week of The Virus. (Yeah, I’m 3 years behind. Whatever.)

I now understand why there were so many Frozen-themed birthday parties and people sick of “Let It Go”. Disney freakin’ nailed this one (and yes, I do want my own Elsa dress). 

As I’m growing okay with the fact that I need a break in the afternoon and a movie can help for an hour, I’ve seen a lot more kids’ movies (or at least big enough chunks that I get the main idea). I’ve been totally impressed with some of them (Wall-E, anyone? LOVE THAT ONE TOO).

Anyway, back to Frozen. The message about fear and running away hits me every time. (And bless the trolls and her parents; in trying to keep everyone safe, their efforts created a very sad and fearful little girl. I wonder which of my well-intentioned efforts now are creating fodder for my kids later. I’m sure I’ll find out.)

Warning: movie spoiler. So Elsa runs away and gains a sliver of freedom, learning more about what she is capable of building. However, she doesn’t get (at first) that she hasn’t actually solved the problem. BAM — it comes knocking at her door, and things turn way worse before they get better. (And the whole ending of love being the antidote to fear – I’m in tears every time.)

I’ve well on my way to a zillion viewings of the movie. Each time I get to thinking about pockets in my life where I’m afraid. Is my life actually in danger (e.g., snake attack) or am I running away, avoiding something new? 

Feeling fear can be really uncomfortable. Like going nuts uncomfortable. It’s taken me years to learn it’s okay to experience it (though sometimes I forget), that it doesn’t mean I’m doing something wrong or bad or suck or should immediately quit and go back in my hole. I also didn’t get that I’d always experience fear about one thing or another, that it wasn’t something I could (or should) “get over”. That there’s no place where everything will always be easy and smell like lilacs and shine like a bright rainbow all of the time – that’s B.S.

I’m getting more okay with fear (pops up ALL of the time in creating stuff for Skip the Box; always seems ironic the only thing that helps is to do what I’m afraid of). Sometimes it pops in around food and listening to what my body needs. The voice in my head snickers: “You think you’ve learned and healed so much. You’re just kidding yourself. Loser.” I’ll feel some craving and get afraid, feeling kind of crazy or out of control.

It’s getting easier to slow myself down, take a breather, go on a bathroom break (seriously a good space for breakthroughs), listen within (yeah, I know sounds vague but that’s what it feels like to me). And sometimes I do still find myself pretending the discomfort isn’t there, that I just need to “try harder, weakling!” and muscle through with willpower. Then I’ll find myself in the pantry, inhaling the chocolate chips. Just lovely. Yeah, the avoiding doesn’t work so well. If I run away from the discomfort and feelings of fear, they come knocking louder until I have to listen.

So, yeah, Frozen gets me thinking. Maybe way too much. But I’m okay with that.

How about you? A fan of the movie? Thoughts about fear? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Leave a note in the comments below!

6 thoughts on “I Love Frozen

  1. Brooke

    I fear that my frustration with my kids sometimes will make them feel unloved. Also most of the time I try to be as truthful with my kids about their questions as possible, whether it be death or anything else. But I feel like some realities of life may cause them to have fears.

    Talking to them about strangers is a subject that causes fear.

    1. skipthebox Post author

      Yeah, those are definitely tough ones. When kiddos are involved, it kind of changes a lot. Anything you’ve found helpful for you when those fears pop up?

  2. jeanne carfora

    Looks like I’ll have to get a copy of Frozen also. Lots of my ‘grandma friends’ rave about it, so I better get with it. Love your kids pictures with you! Hey, good news today–NO SODA! Too busy. I didn’t even need your face either! Lots of love coming your way! I do agree with you. The only way to deal with fear is head on!It’s scary, but works, esp in small steps.

    1. skipthebox Post author

      Yeah, I’m with your friends. I really enjoyed it, more than I expected. Awesome re: soda! And glad you didn’t need my face as a reminder. 😉 Small steps — helpful in so much.

  3. Andrea

    For the record…I like the message of the Let it Go song “To test the limits and break through
    No right, no wrong, no rules for me I’m free,” but I can’t bear to hear it anymore.

    However, speaking of fears, what I found out to be effective to cope with fear is to mentally prepare for change. If I know there is going to be a big change coming down the pipe, I start talking about it to get them to think about it so when the time comes, they are not fearful (act out, be clingy or anxious). For example, when my kids were going to start school (TK/K), I started talking to them about it right after they turned 4. I wouldn’t preach for hours about it, but as we did fun things, I would tie it to school. I would tell them things like how fun it is going to be, and of course how they will be so busy they won’t need me around (subtle way of saying you will be without me for a few hrs, and that’s ok).
    When the time came, both of my kids were excited to go to school, gave me a hug and a kiss and went about their business. They didn’t mind I was leaving.

    We as parents have to try to prepare them for change. They are too little to know how to handle it, specially when it’s drastic so we need to help them learn the ropes. I am also a believer that kids are little sponges that absorb EVERYTHING. Meaning, if we are feeling fearful/anxious, they can sense it and they become fearful/anxious too and “Act Out” as a defend mechanism to cope with their feelings.

    1. skipthebox Post author

      Many thank for sharing, Andrea — so much well-said wisdom (and a good reminder to me today with kinder prep stuff and seeing Jacob feeling a bit nervous!). Very much agree – kids are little sponges, sensing so much, and we as parents have the important role of helping prepare them. Thanks for sharing.

      P.S. I’m guessing down the road I may be sick of the song too. 🙂

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